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5 tips on how to deal with negativity on Social Media

We all hear about the negative impact of Social Media these days. I’ve met many people recently who told me how down they feel after scrolling on Instagram. But do we actually do something to STOP? I know from my own experience how easy it is to get addicted to this app. I still find it a place full of inspirations. It also helped me to connect with many like-minded people and this is something I am forever grateful for. However now after doing it full-time for a while, I see many negative aspects of this space too and I had moments that I was feeling super down and frustrated. Why? Well my own fault! I’ve been spending way too much time scrolling and scrolling thousands of perfectly edited photographs , watching all the stories, one unboxing after another, another wow-looking hotel, another insta-perfect couple etc I know it can get pretty overwhelming and make you feel worst when you already have one of these bad days or generally going through some tough time. All that affected me a lot in the past but I’ve started to learn to deal with all that and look after my mental health better. Here’s my top 5 tips :

1. Unfollow negative people on Social Media

We all follow somebody who is super negative but for some reason we’re still watching these dramatic stories everyday. I stopped that and unfollowed/ muted stories of people I don’t want to keep seeing as:

a) they don’t bring any value into my life

b) they have negative impact on my mental health

c) I don’t need their drama in my life

Follow more accounts that make you happy, make you laugh and giving you the positive vibes instead. It honestly helped me!

2. Don’t compare yourself to others

That’s the hardest part. When you’re having a bad day, you’re logging into your Instagram and keep seeing all the paradise locations, unboxing, events, vacations and all that. After some time you’re starting to think your life’s crap. Remember- what people post on Social Media are mainly the highlights of their lives. Many don’t show the REAL life, the struggles, don’t talk about problems so on the outside it all looks perfect and it makes you feel worst about yourself and your life. But scroll down your own feed- maybe to somebody else it’s actually your life that looks GOALS. You know what I mean? 🙂 Remember it’s only a bad day, not a bad life!

3. Spent less time watching what others do and focus on yourself

This is something that I have been practicing a lot recently and I swear it feels so good. Now I am spending way less time online watching people’s stories and I’ve started to invest this time into my development , working on my blog, Pinterest, my projects and dreams. I’ve been also going out with friends more often and devote this “extra” time people I love. I’ve been spending more time outdoors with nature which makes me happier and more relaxed.

4. Ignore the trolls

Recently I’ve seen many people posting stories literally crying from some negative, bullying comments left on their posts or DMs. Well, we’ve all been there. The truth is, the moment we decide to put ourselves and our lives online we should be aware of the consequences. I do understand the constructive criticism however if the messages or comments are simply mean, aggressive, vulgar and make no sense- I simply just ignore and delete them. No point wasting time and nerves for anonymous online bullies.

5. Spread the positivity

Remember that the positive starts with you! You cannot dictate what other people share on their profiles however you’re in charge on what you share on yours! Be the positivity, the energy, the place where people would enjoy coming back to. Post inspiring content, places and positive thoughts and encourage others to do the same! Together you could create a positive space and empower one another!

How do you deal with the negativity on Social Media?

The Blonde Flamingo

How to add the magic to your photos- easy photo editing guide

Hello everyone!

It’s been a while! I really missed writing on my blog! I have been very busy with travelling- I have recently been to Thailand ( I will write a separate post about that trip) , London Fashion week and organising upcoming trip to Dubai- can’t wait!

In the meantime I have decided to prepare a second photo editing guide for you as you are always asking me about it ( you can see the first one here) This time I would like to show you my new favourite editing apps that help me to add a little magic to my photos!

1. PicsArt

My number one app at the moment it’s PicsArt. You can honestly do everything with it. There’s plenty of beautiful presets and effects- from fairytale lights, snow, adding hearts, fireworks, stars, galaxy skies and many others! Literally Instagram dream! Here’s some of the examples of my edits with the Pics Art app. The app it’s not free- it costs few pounds a month but I have bought a whole year subscribtion as I really enjoy using it for either Instagram photos or stories.

2. Snowing Pic

Another app I would recommend if you only need the tool to add the snow to your photos (I am mentioning it as I had so many people asking) it’s app called Snowing Pics. It’s totally free and it takes seconds to add the snow. There are different types so you can see which one works best with your shot.

See the example below :

3. Canvas

If you’re looking for a tool to help you out with cute design, there is an app I am honestly loving at the moment- Canvas. I use it for either Instagram stories or boards for my Pinterest. Great news- it’s awesome and it’s free of charge! There are some extras you may need to pay for but I promise it’s worth it, however basic option is honestly enough. You can design so many incredible things using it – logos, flyers, posters, invitations, blog and Pinterest graphics, recipe cards and many more. I am honestly loving it and still exploring how to use it!

Here’s few examples :

4. Facetune 2

Almost forgot to mention the app I am using frequently- Facetune 2. This is the app I am using to make my skin look smother and to make my photos more “glossy” I use the tool called glow on all my photos.

5. Unfold

I have already mentioned this app here but I continue using Unfold app as I am loving it for the Instagram stories! I don’t know if you’ve seen but they have added a new Valentine’s / love theme now and it’s been working so well and made the stories way more interesting! If you haven’t got this app yet you should definitely invest few pounds a month! It’s honestly a game- changer!

Here’s some examples :

I hope you’ve enjoyed this little editing guide! Let me know what are you favourite editing tools!

The Blonde Flamingo

Personal thoughts and Instagram tips

Slightly different posts than usual but here’s few thoughts about Instagram from a perspective of  now, a full-time blogger.

  1. Life is not always as colourful and amazing like on Instagram photos.  Waking up in the morning and first thing that you do is Instagram scrolling?  Some people would look at it as inspiration for next holidays, lovely way to wake up looking at all magical hotels, fashionable outfits, flower baths, perfectly set up breakfasts. The others seeing these things over and over again every morning before going to the office find it depressing. As it’s extremely hard not to crave the same life, I mean who wouldn’t like to ‘wake up like this”? We’re the people responsible for educating our audiences- what y0u see here is our job. Of course we love what we do, we get invited to the most incredible places and it all may seem so perfect. However let’s keep in mind- this is the job like any other. We get paid to create and inspire. Brands expect that through our content the sales will increase. That’s why what you sometimes see may seem “too much” or “non-realistic” but we need to make sure it catches the eye and “sells” really.  Our job is to make sure it will inspire, it will make people dream about going to this particular cafe, hotel or a destination. But it’s important to understand that our life is not always as glamorous as what you see on our feeds. We’re also humans cleaning the house, shopping groceries and having ups and downs. So don’t compare yourself thinking “they have perfect life” and your one’s crap. Believe me or not but there’s people in the industry who’ve got no money in their bank account, they are literally homeless but playing the perfect feed game while staying in free hotels, eating in free cafes and wearing clothes they were gifted – all in exchange for Instagram photo. You should be aware of that before starting all the negative thinking about your own life. Don’t feel bad about going to work, having your career, making a living and going on holidays from time to time. As this is real. That’s a real life and you should be grateful for it everyday.
  2. It’s not all about numbers. I see a lot of new bloggers who just started and they are already stressing about numbers, likes, algorithm doing all they can to kind of “speed it up”. What I would suggest is to find you niche, style and focus on the content and message more than just desperately looking for likes and follows, playing follow for follow game, buying followers and doing million shoutouts a day. Firstly you need to organically find people who would simply enjoy watching and reading what you do. Nobody said it’ll be easy, but I can promise it’s so worth it. Numbers will come after time and you’ll feel more proud knowing that what you created is real, the followers are real people who actually love what you do and love you and support you through the whole journey.
  3. Be yourself.  Be true to who you are. Don’t lie to your audience and don’t be afraid of your weaknesses- they are real people following you so they will understand and feel your ups and downs as they are facing the same battles. Open up with them and support one another. My audience helped me so much through this journey and I know I would have given up long time ago if I didn’t speak loudly about the struggles and didn’t get the support. Remember – they are real people. Let them share this journey with you and see your growth. Let your photos define you, your personality and your style. Take your audience to your dream places. Let them live this dream with you.
  4. Be proud of what you create. Sometimes we let likes decide if the content we created was good or not- I get that a lot too and slowly learning to accept that likes are nothing I can control, they come and go, each post is different. But as long as I put the same amount of time and effort, and my heart into it – that should make me proud no matter how it performed as I created it with love and passion.
  5. Get inspired but don’t copy. Remember “one thing about following people and copying what they do, you will always be one step behind”. So don’t. Find your own style and work on it. After some time you will laugh at it (omg I do all the time!) but this is when you see your progress. Put the real you out there and let the world the world love you and accept you as you are. It will make the whole journey easier than constantly chasing and pretending someone you’re not.
  6. Take a break sometimes. They all say- engage, engage, engage. It’s true- by liking and commenting others posts you will more likely get some extra attention on yours. However imagine we all would spent everyday and all the time liking and commenting others posts. We would probably forget that we actually have lives! So do it, but know the limit. By spending too much time online you’re having less time for your family, friends and real life experiences. So do it all but don’t get crazy . I like taking a morning/ afternoon or even the entire day completely off to recharge my batteries, look for inspiration outdoors, meet people rather than chat to them online all the time and give my eyes a well-needed break. Your Instagram won’t die if you do so!

5 apps you should get to improve your Instagram profile

Hi guys!

I hope you’re having a fabulous week so far! Today I’d like to share something you’ve been constantly asking me about- how do I edit my photos, what apps do I use to create beautiful designs for Instagram stories and how to create that perfect looking Instagram feed. I hope my tips will help you move your Instagram to a different level!

First of all, as many of you ask- I don’t use presets. I edit each photo separately, sometimes for an hour or two to make sure it’s flamingo perfect, haha! The first main tool I am using to edit my photos is Photoshop. I promise, learning the few basic things is life-changing. I have never thought I could create a magic like that! I was lucky at my previous job to have our incredibly talented Global Head of Social Media showing me how to use it. The way I’ve learnt the basis was watching Sarah editing. Firstly it was very overwhelming and kind of scary as it was so many steps, but after watching the same steps few times it became easier and after practising for months it became doable! I still have a lot to learn but happy with what I already can do! What I would recommend is to watch the YouTube tutorials. It may seem very confusing at first but I promise- give it some time and you’ll get it! You can get Photoshop here

However after editing my photo in Photoshop the actual editing is not over yet! After Photoshop I am moving my image from the computer into my mobile and continue editing using my favourite mobile apps.

Lightroom I am sure you’ve heard about this editing tool already, if not- please get it. It’s free of charge to use on Smartphones and even without knowing Photoshop you can create beautiful edits. I mainly use this app for creating these perfectly coordinated colours. This is where I am trying to bring the blues, yellows, whites and pinks (my dominating colours) on all my photos to the same shades. Sometimes I create 20 versions of the same photo with different colour shades to find that perfect one!

 

How do I see if the photos look good all together on the feed? Here’s my secret :

UNUM This app helps you to create the perfect looking feed. You can basically put all your edited images into the app and move them around the way everything looks great together. If the colours don’t seem to match that well, I continue editing the colours using Lightroom until it’s all perfectly coordinated. The app is linked to your Instagram account so after adding the photos to it and putting them nicely together, you can also add the captions and hashtags, save them and then be posting the photos directly to your Instagram account. Another great thing about UNUM is also the analytics which show you when your followers are the most active so the app actually tells you when it’s the best day and hour to post and also what’s your best hashtags. If you’re running few Instagram accounts you should also know that you can log in up to 5 accounts to the app- it was saving me at my previous job. I had all the content scheduled for all my brands in one place. I highly recommend it!

Unfold This app is my quite recent and absolutely favourite discovery. This is where I create all the beautiful designs for my Instagram stories. The choice is great and honestly I love playing around with it. You can be editing both- photos and videos. I promise you can do the magic! The app costs few pounds and it’s so worth it. The new features and frames are added very often to make sure you never get bored. You can choose from many beautiful frames, fonts and colours. Here’s few examples :

 

HypeType another awesome app for improving your Instagram stories. The best feature is adding the music to them. It definitely makes the stories more fun, engaging and it makes people wanna watch them! You can also purchase many original fonts.

 

Quickshot – this app is insane. I discovered it thanks to Elajza and I am forever grateful. You know this feeling when you look at the sky and it looks just so perfect and blue but after taking the photo it doesn’t look that wow? Or what happens a lot to me as I take most of my photos with iPhone 8 plus- the blue sky in the strong sunlight looks very kind of dark and stormy on the photos. This is when you need Quickshoot. You can “swap” the sky in just few seconds. You can now have your perfect blue skies, magical pinky sunsets and even the stars, haha! Create your own magic!

I hope you’ll find these apps useful and you’ll love them as I do! Let me know!

Xoxo,

The Blonde Flamingo